Otter Spirit Gemstones
I’ve had the opportunity to partner with an amazing company that feels really close to my heart.
I have loved the ocean all of my life, and I’m a mermaid at heart. When I was a child I first of all wanted to be a mermaid and later I wanted to become a marine biologist for a while. The last one is a bit more realistic perhaps.
One early memory for me is from when I was nine years old and visited the Monterey Bay Aquarium in California with my family. I fell in love with the sea otters and I still remember this experience quite vividly.
So I am so happy to now be able to collaborate with Otter Spirit that creates beautiful intentional gemstones jewelry while also protecting the wild sea otters of Monterey Bay that have been endangered over the past years.
They source the gemstones carefully and ethically and they are very transparent about this.
This is what they have to say about themselves on their website:
“Born in Monterey Bay, California in 2023, Otter Spirit is a jewelry brand on a mission: offering authentic gemstones jewelry while protecting wild sea otters.”
From what I understand the idea came in 2020, three years before that, when the founders encountered the sea otters while travelling the California coast and wanted to help protect them.
How it works is that they donate $1 from every bracelet sold to nonprofits dedicated to ocean conservation. Otter Spirit joined the Monterey Bay Aquarium’s Business Donors Board in 2024.
Use my referral link to browse the Otter Spirit website here and the coupon code REBECKA20 will be added to any purchase you make, giving you a 20% discount.
The bracelets, in the picture, that I was gifted are made of Rainbow Moonstone, Watermelon Chalcedony and Green Jade. Otter Spirit started out by creating bracelets but now also make other jewelry, like necklaces.
I am so honored to be able to collaborate with this amazing company with a beautiful mission and I recommend them wholeheartedly.
What is an Empress of Equanimity?
The name of my new course Empress of Equanimity comes out of the feeling I want you to have when you go through the material and that I would want you to cultivate every day.
It has a sense of grace and power to it. An Empress of Equanimity is at peace with herself. She is self-assured and confident from within. She doesn't always need to express her self-worth, although she can too. It shines through her very being.
For me, inner power and inner peace go hand in hand. One cultivates the other. Power here means power over ourselves and over our inner empire.
When we become the Empress of our inner world and are able to conjure up that inner peace and love that lives within us, even in circumstances that are not ideal, we become energetically untouchable. We are then able to not be swayed or taken aback by outer events as much.
This takes practice and there will be moments when we get into old patterns, but the more we practice and remind ourselves of our true nature, which is peace and love, the easier it will be to come back to it.
In Empress of Equanimity we will practice this deeply. ✨
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I’ll say it again: Business is not a virtue
I've said it before and I'll say it again: Busyness is not a virtue.
I refuse to be impressed by how much someone can fit into their calendar and how thin they can spread themselves as if it's a badge of honor, while I can feel the tension in them.
Many women do too much, striving for the perfect life or the most full life, doing everything for everyone, until they cannot do anything anymore because they burn out.
Women make up 79% of the people who are on sick leave due to exhaustion syndrome in Sweden (where I live).
What I have learnt in my life, is to create space for myself. Because that space is where peace, contentment, guidance and true creativity can grow.
It’s not about not being engaged in causes that mean a lot to us or not being there for others, but we can differentiate between things that we really want to do and things we say yes to out of obligation.
This energy of obligation creates negative stress and can cause resentment in relationship to other people. The contradiction here is that we will be able to show up so much more and better for others when we first show up for ourselves and our own wellbeing.
Next time you are asked, or feel compelled, to take on a new responsibility, whether professionally or personally, take time before you decide, center into yourself and ask; Is this something I really want to do or need to do?
In my course Empress of Equanimity, open for enrollment now, we will go deep into how we can retrain ourselves to prioritise our space and peace.
This course will be added to with more modules coming. It is right now at the lowest price it will ever be, but only until around 13th October! ✨ (I will let you know before it closes.)
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The problem with spiritual teachers
Just because someone seems to have spiritual insights, psychic abilities or visions that others don’t seem to have, it does not mean they have all the answers.
Only you have the answers for your life. The only thing others can do is to reflect back your truth to you as a confirmation.
I am especially careful with leaders or teachers who seem too sure about what the truth is and that their perspective is the right one.
Discernment is very important when navigating that world.
A teacher I follow once said something along the lines of: ‘Any coach who does not lead you back to what feels right and true for you is not a coach I can get behind’. This is something I keep in mind when listening to others and it has always been reflected in my own work, even before that.
I don’t have the whole truth either, I seek it just like you, and we can help each other in this. But I have experience in seeking and finding that inner peace, inner guidance and joy which I now experience again and again. I want to help you find it within yourself too.
I basically want to help lead you back to what feels right and true for you and your inner guidance.
In the Empress of Equanimity course we will do this and more. ⚜️
Through meditation and other inner peace practices and finding peace within us, we can become more accepting of not knowing everything but also more open to possibilities.
This is the most important foundation for creating a life lived from inner wellbeing, peace and purpose.
This course will be added to with more modules coming. Once you have bought the course any future updates and bonuses are yours without any extra cost, so get in now at the lowest price it will ever be! ✨
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My course Empress of Equanimity is here!
My new course Empress of Equanimity is here!
I have seen too many women being burnt out and exhausted by outer and inner demands. And I have been on the verge of that too, if it wasn't for my inner peace tools that I have kept coming back to.
True liberation for women must include a reclaiming of our own inner and outer space, peace and centeredness, where our true creativity is found and can flourish.
Through trial and error over the past 13 years, I have explored different ways and methods of coming back to my inner peace through meditation, introspection and spiritual principles. I now know how to center into myself and connect back to my inner peace almost instantly.
I have learnt to carve out space and time for myself continually and made my inner peace practice a daily habit.
And I want to show as many women as possible to do the same for themselves.
Shift your mind from:
Stress to calm.
Chaos to peace.
Overwhelm to tranquillity.
Over-giving and self-abandonment to clear boundaries and self-love.
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Empress of Equanimity
is the course where I will share everything I know about how to do this.
These teachings and methods are not frivolous or unimportant. They are the most important foundation for creating a life lived from inner wellbeing, peace and purpose.
This course will be added to with more modules coming. Once you have bought the course any future updates and bonuses will be added without any extra cost, so get in now at the lowest price it will ever be! ✨
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Women’s spirituality
I’ve been thinking about the difference between what spirituality women need vs men.
The worldly feminine gender roles often include:
Selflessness, being caring, sharing resources, being self-sacrificing.
Religious ideas of becoming selfless and serving others are useful for men (divine masculine) not for women in general.
These are good traits but women already have them, mostly.
Women need more self-centeredness.
I think that’s a reason why many women turn away from organised spirituality towards other types of spirituality. And this is coming from someone like me who is a Christian in my own way, although I'm no longer religious in the traditional sense.
The divine feminine focuses inward, not outward. Becoming aligned within herself. That is where creativity comes from and thrives.
And I will go as far as saying that we as women need more selfishness, not at the expense of others but for both self-preservation and self-fulfilment.
The depletion and burn out of women is a pandemic and the initial answer is not more self-sacrifice, but more self-centeredness.
In my upcoming course we will dive deep into how we can reclaim our inner peace, clarity and guidance. Stay tuned for more about that in the next couple of weeks ⚜️
In the meantime, you can sign up to my free Peace of Mind Meditation Series here.
Become self-sustaining & center yourself
Make yourself the center of your life.
If you are someone who feels you have more feminine energy than masculine. Remember, the feminine is self-sustaining. It’s the creative force and the source of everything.
When I say feminine I am not talking about the manufactured, patriarchal idea of gender roles. I’m talking about the feminine that exists in all of us. The more structured masculine energy also exists in everyone. We don’t need to look outside of us for any of this.
The feminine is free, unfettered, creative and knows how to relax and receive. And if we balance it with the more organised, structured part of ourselves (which we are all in a lot of the time in this world), we can create the life that we want for ourselves.
Everything is inside of you. There is no one else that can create this for you. You are the source and the center of your life.
Personally, I mostly feel free to do what I want with my life, but I have not always felt this freedom. Now that I do, if I can help other women also have this freedom or start taking steps towards it, I will.
Nothing makes me more frustrated than seeing women being limited or giving over their power to someone or something else. I want liberation for all of us, not just myself.
To start with, we have to take time for ourselves regularly. We need to center ourselves in our own lives and put ourselves first. That means sometimes or often saying no to other people or demands made by the world around us.
That peace of mind that we seek is inside of us but to find it again we need to cancel out some of the noise that made us get disoriented and lose track of that peace.
I’m here to help you with that.
Start by signing up to my Peace of Mind Meditation Series.
Women’s unpaid work at home
Studies show that even in the more equal societies, like Sweden where I live, women still do the majority of the housework (cooking, cleaning, planning etc).
This is the case even when the woman is earning the same or more than her male partner that she lives with (for heterosexual relationships that is). Of course there are always exceptions.
We can discuss gender roles and different solutions to this, but my main concern is the creative potential in women that gets lost in the busyness and the distraction and sometimes even burn out that comes with this.
I live by myself and I know many women who do, but not everyone wants or can live by themselves.
So how do we change this and carve out more space in our lives?
Some might say that we can’t as long as there is inequality and as long as many men do not take their part of the responsibility.
But I say that we can make changes, small changes one step at a time, to reclaim that space and peace and creativity for ourselves.
If we can carve out even 15 minutes a day to meditate or write in our journal or just sit down with something we like to drink and breathe and clear our thoughts in silence, or listen to some calm music or guided meditation, that is a good start.
Because many distract themselves by scrolling without aim and use that amount of time or more.
It’s sounds so simple and like it wouldn’t do much difference, but it does make a difference.
And when that clarity of thought starts coming to us, we can more clearly decide what we are willing to do and not do, and start questioning if the way we are living our lives works, and make more conscious decisions, which can change the dynamic of women doing all of this unpaid work on autopilot, one woman at a time.
Venus
Venus, the Evening Star or the Morning Star depending on its position, has been shining bright lately.
Venus is a symbol of the divine feminine and just as the star Venus descends in the sky and seemingly falls towards the Earth or the underworld the divine feminine has had downfalls in mythology.
The fallen angel Lucifer, meaning light-bringer, is a mythological figure representing Venus as the Morning Star. It was the name of the star Venus in Roman folklore. He has been wrongly confused with the idea of the devil.
Lucifer did not want to obey or be subservient to the patriarchal god and was cast out of heaven. It’s no surprise that he has been demonised just like Lilith, the first woman who did not want to submit to Adam.
This casting out into the underworld is recurring in mythology about the ancient Mesopotamian goddess Ishtar and the Norse goddess Hel.
I think it represents the time when the divine feminine was made secondary, was only allowed to exist underground and patriarchal systems took over.
It is time for Venus to rise again. ⭐️ ♀
Art by Alana Fairchild (Rumi Oracle Cards) and unknown.
The soft life vs The path of least resistance
You might have heard about the internet trend ‘soft life’, which usually refers to women who don’t want to work too much and have an easy, soft life with a lot of leisure time. This may even come at the cost of independence.
I talk about de-stressing and finding inner peace and stopping ourselves from becoming exhausted or burnt out and from accepting all of the obligations that outer circumstances put on us. But I would not recommend the ‘soft life’ as it’s currently being presented. Even though I can understand parts of it, because it’s a reaction to women burning out and taking on too many responsibilities.
The kind of inner peace I talk about has nothing to do with not putting ourselves out there or not challenging ourselves. Having goals and dreams (whether big or small) is going to challenge us.
Learning to relax, de-stress and find inner peace is not about being too easy on yourself, being lazy or lowering expectations on our life and goals.
It’s about increasing our expectations of ourselves and life, and realising stress and overload is not necessary to have the life that we want.
It’s about expanding and seeing that there is another way of doing things. One that grows out of inner guidance that we find through stillness even if there is a lot going on in our outer world.
It’s sometimes called the path of least resistance, most commonly used by Esther Hicks. For me, this does not mean giving up on our goals to make life easier on ourselves in the moment. It means doing more of what we are called to do instead of what we feel obliged to do. It will still be challenging at times, but there is an excitement behind it instead of obligation.
You are the ruler of your experience
The famous psychiatrist Carl Jung said:
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.”
A Course in Miracles says it like this:
“I am responsible for what I see.
I choose the feelings I experience, and I decide upon the goal I would achieve.
And everything that seems to happen to me I ask for, and receive as I have asked.”
This is not to say that we are to blame for what happens to us, but on a subtler level our own unconscious beliefs and patterns creates our reality. It can seem discouraging if we have patterns in our lives that our conscious mind does not want. But think about, if our unconscious has that much power, it means that we are much more powerful than we thought.
Carl Jung also talked about what he called the collective unconscious which are collective patterns in the world that affects our collective reality. So our unconscious is also entwined and affected by other people’s unconscious.
So since these beliefs and patterns are unconscious, how can we affect and start to change some of them if that is what we want? Some powerful yet simple ways to do this are through meditation and guided meditations or hypnotherapy (hypnotherapy is a type of structured guided meditation).
These methods activate the parasympathetic nervous system and can connect us to the deeper levels of the mind, the unconscious levels. From there we can have insights about our lives and internal patterns that we do not get from the conscious mind.
It’s really not as complicated as it can sound and to start you only need yourself, a comfortable space and some time put aside.
To get started you can access my free Peace of Mind Meditation Series here.
Morning habits for clarity, calm and focus
Take time first thing in the morning doing something that brings calm and clarity before consuming social media or interact with others (other than family).
Some suggestions are:
Do some short journaling on your intentions for the day.
Do some light stretching to get rid of the stiffness and sleepiness in your body.
Sit in quiet with a coffee or tea and read something for a few minutes (my go to for the past 10 years is A Course in Miracles).
Meditate. This is the most efficient method to get clarity of mind in the morning.
It may be enough to only carve out 10 minutes to do one or two if these things. I mostly only spend around 15 minutes myself: 2-3 minutes of stretching and 15 mins ACIM reading and meditation.
Start with 5 minutes and see how it feels. When you feel the benefits you may want to take it up to 10 minutes.
I focus on the number of minutes because some think that these things take a lot of time but they don’t have to. Most of us can find 10 minutes to spare, even in the morning. Try it out for yourself.
In my free Peace of Mind Meditation Series there is a short guided meditation called Preparing for your day. Sign up here to receive it.
Three things to stop doing for more peace of mind
Stop caring too much about what other people think of you. They are busy worrying about their own problems. Stressing over what people think and holding ourselves back because we are worried about it is something that you will surely regret.
Stop overthinking about whether your professional performance is good enough. People who do this, often women, are usually the overachievers anyway. Your work performance is most probably more than good enough.
Stop beating yourself up when you’re not able to fit everything in. Take something out of your schedule that is not absolutely necessary or can be done another day.
To kickstart your life with more peace of mind, sign up for my free Peace of Mind Meditation Series here, with seven short guided meditations.
Self-centeredness is necessary
Self-centeredness is not a bad thing. In fact, it’s necessary. Hear me out.
For people, like so many women I know, who live their lives mostly for other people, doing everything for everyone else until they burn themselves out, self-centeredness is absolutely necessary.
For people who have always lived their lives acting selfish and giving no consideration to others apart from what others can do for them, narcissists and such, it’s a different story. But those are not the people I’m addressing here.
I’m talking about good hearted, compassionate, creative and often very ambitious women who have so many ideas and things they want to do and could do, often things that will help the world in some way. Because we are compassionate towards others we get easily derailed and put our own dreams aside.
We need to stop now. There is no time for that nonsense.
Center into yourself daily and come back to what it is you want in this life. What life do you want to live? What contributions do you want to make? When you forget or get distracted, as we all will, come back to it.
Even if you are not where you want to be now, start thinking about what you want, journal it out or just visualise it in your mind. Start taking small steps to do things for yourself more to get you into that centered state.
You have probably figured out by now that I relate to all of this myself. I have been there and it’s an ongoing practise to center into myself every day. If you forget one day, because life, then come back to it the next day.
One of the best ways to start doing this is through meditation, whether by yourself in silence or a guided meditation.
To paraphrase The Bible: ‘Seek first the Kingdom of God and everything else will be added on.’ It also says ‘The Kingdom of God is within. ‘ In other words, seek that place in yourself where you are in your power and in your peace. Center into it and everything else is secondary.
Access my free Peace of Mind Meditation Series here.
Busyness is not a virtue
Busyness is not a virtue.
It has been glorified for too long.
This really gets on my nerves. Why?
Many women do too much, striving for the perfect life or the most full life, doing everything for everyone, until they cannot do anything for anyone anymore because they hit a wall.
Women make up 79% of the people who are on sick leave due to exhaustion syndrome in Sweden (where I live).
There is no simple solution but we need to stop saying yes to things that we don’t even really want to do.
It’s not about not being engaged in causes that mean a lot to us or not doing anything for others, but we can differentiate between things that we really want to do and things we say yes to out of obligation or not wanting to say no. This energy of obligation creates negative stress and can cause resentment in relationship to other people.
Next time you are asked, or feel compelled, to take on a new responsibility, whether professionally or personally, take time before you decide, center into yourself and ask yourself; Is this something I really want to do? The answer will come in one way or another.
In my upcoming course next year I will go deep into how to drop the exhaustion and connect to your inner peace and guidance.
In the meantime you can sign up for my Inner Peace Meditation Series here.
Meditation and Stoicism
One of the well known benefits of a regular meditation practice is that it helps us to be in a state of equanimity more often, which is a state of calmness and composure, even in difficult situations.
This is similar to the inner calmness, self-mastery and self-reflection that are some of the main principles of Stoicism.
A philosophy that was founded around the year 300 BC. Some of the principles you will find in Stoicism are:
Being in control of your own reactions, even in a crisis
Accept that there are some things you can control and some things you can’t
What we can control is our inner state of being, not the outer world
There are many other aspects to this philosophy but these are the ones that most relates to the positive effects of meditation.
When we meditate regularly, the peace and equanimity that is felt in and just after meditation spills out into the rest of our day and life.
It helps to balance our nervous system and it makes us less reactive and more reflective. However, in my experience, I don’t think it makes us less reactive in situations where we do need to react.
I think Stoicism is related to other traditions that advocates for meditative and self-reflective practices. Although it came out of a particular time and place, Hellenistic Greece, its philosophy is not so different from Christian contemplation practices or the Buddhist practice of mindfulness.
Most meditation techniques essentially do the same thing. It reduces and sometimes even eliminates mental clutter and trains the mind to be still.
And that stillness is a powerful state to be in…
Artist unknown
Art as revelation
Art can reveal to us a glimpse of something that is beyond this world. A beauty that is impossible to put into words but that can be felt and that renders us speechless and breathless.
That’s what I mean by revelation, the revealing of what is beyond the veil of the material.
Two artworks have in a particularly strong way given me these kind of moments when I saw them in real life:
La Pietà by Michelangelo
and
The Incomplete Truth by Damien Hirst
This feeling can be experienced through meditation, relationships and in the most unexpected situations. But for me, art is a powerful way to give us this otherworldly experience.
The problem with spiritual teachers
Just because someone seems to have spiritual insights, psychic abilities or visions that others don’t seem to have, it does not make them a person we should listen to. They may be worth listening to but they may as well not be. I am especially careful with spiritual leaders or teachers who seem too sure about what the truth is and that their perspective is the right one.
Spiritual pride is one of the worst and most insidious forms of pride, because it can hide behind a surface of enlightenment and righteousness. I am not referring to traditional religion here (although it can exist there too). I am referring to modern spiritual teachers and psychics. Discernment is very important when navigating that world.
A coach I listen to once said something along the lines of: ‘Any coach who does not lead you back to what feels right and true for you is not worth listening to’. This is something I keep in mind when listening to others.
I don’t have the truth either, I seek it just like you. We are all seekers and we can help each other in this. But mostly I seek that inner peace which I know is there because I’ve found it and have experienced it many times. I want to help you find it too.
We don’t need to know everything. Like Socrates is meant to have said: “All I know is that I know nothing.” That is also the whole point of mysticism for me. As long as we live this human life, there is meant to be some mystery to it.
Through meditation practices and finding a peace within, we can become more accepting of not knowing and more open to possibilities.
What meditation has done for me
I started meditating 11 years ago and have meditated regularly since.
These are some of the things that it has done for me:
It made me find a stillness within that I didn’t know existed.
I can bring that stillness and calm with me into my life. Sometimes I forget but I always come back to it.
It has helped me manage stressful or difficult periods in my life.
It clears my mind and helps me see problems in a different light and helps solutions to come without much effort.
The light has come...
”The light has come. I have forgiven the world.” (A Course in Miracles - Lesson 75)
Let us look at what this means. Forgiving the world does not mean that the world owes you something or that it has done you wrong.
Forgiving the world means seeing it with new eyes or in a new light. What is sometimes called the ‘lifting of the veil’ or like Bob Marley sang “take that veil from off of your eyes”.
It can happen spontaneously or through certain experiences.
What I know is that meditation gets me into this state more frequently and consistently, especially between meditation sessions.
It helps remove the clutter from our mind and gives us a new sight.
